I can’t do this. Why am I putting myself through this torture again? Eh, just start fresh and try again tomorrow. Is it even worth it? That chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream is calling your name—no screaming—screaming your name! All of these negative thoughts try to keep me away from greatness by flooding my brain with doubt. Fortunately, I’ve found ways to override my brain’s negativity. 

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During high school cheerleading practice, we completed several different sets of exercises. We started with sit ups, following with suicides, next pushups and so on and so forth. I wouldn’t push myself all the way for the first exercise because I was too busy anticipating the amount of energy I would need for the next exercise.  I was saving my energy and strength for the next workout so I wouldn’t be too tired to complete it.  

My cheerleading coach told me something I will never forget. She said to focus on one exercise at a time. She wanted me to put everything I had into each exercise set because I would ALWAYS find the energy to continue the rest of the workout. I would ALWAYS find the energy somewhere inside of me to make it home to my bed to rest so I might as well work as hard as I could during practice. 

Also, while working out, I remind myself that this moment is only a small portion of the timeline entitled ‘the rest of my life’. I won’t be in pain 50 years from now let alone 1 week after the completion of this workout so I just need to push! read more


Kimberly Elise’s Natural Hair Guide | Curly Halo

Many are familiar with Kimberly Elise, the film and television actress who has been in the industry for over 20 years. She is known for her roles in ‘Set It Off’, ‘Diary of a Mad Black Woman’, ‘John Q’ and ‘For Colored Girls’. Some are unaware that in addition to her acting career, Kimberly Elise advocates natural beauty and authentic living through her website KimberlyElise.com. She has even gone as far as to create an interactive eBook entitled, Curly Halo, to teach about the ins and outs of natural hair! 



 I would define Curly Halo as a “Natural Hair eBible” that is the perfect read for all naturalistas old and new. This eBook is jam-packed with useful information that not only teaches the importance of loving natural hair but also offers insight on how to maintain it properly. read more


What Is A Hot Oil Treatment?

Massaging heated oil onto the hair and scalp to moisturize dry hair and treat/prevent damaged hair.


What Is The Point?

What’s the point of adding oil to the hair if it’s just going to be washed out two minutes later? Well, washing the hair can involve a lot of manipulation and stress on the hair strands. Shampooing the hair, especially with shampo containing sulfate can strip the hair of its natural moisture. A hot oil treatment prepares the cuticle for manipulation while helping with moisture retention by protecting the hair from the dryness shampoo can cause.

What Are The Benefits?

  1. Smoothes the cuticle

  2. Softens dry and rough hair

  3. Seals moisture into hai

  4. Restores hair’s shine Continue reading

What Am I Really Protecting? My Heart or My Ego?

I can’t let down my guard because when I do I start to experience this little thing called deja vu. They leave me, cheat on me, lose interest in me…but why? Am I bringing this on myself or is it just not my time?

You see, now I have to protect my heart because I don’t want to feel this pain again…It’s too much to bear. Crying for hours, locking myself away from the rest of the world…from those who actually care about me. I don’t even recognize myself.

Is it easier to just avoid falling in love or is it worth it to take a leap of faith? I don’t have the answer, but this natural caution can easily turn into a brutal defense system. This defense will make it hard to connect with anyone else that may try to come into my life keeping me away from love indefinatley…all because I couldn’t let my guard down. What am I really protecting by building this wall? My heart or my ego? Continue reading